i really want these pants. the color and design of them is off the hook! the problem?
the website only has them in sizes 0 1 5 7 and 9, and the company doesn’t seem to make anything above a size 9. i wear a size 14. i’ve had this problem before, companies not making my size (even though it’s the average size of american women).
it’s been said time and time again trendy, fun clothes are fucking hard to find in a size above 10. the fact that department stores have a seperate section for “misses” is fucked up. i’d find it less offensive if they just straight up called it the “fatty” section.
for the most part, if we want fun attractive trendy whatever, we have Torrid and other stores that specailize in our curves. and are made by 6 year olds in china… we have to go to a seperate place for our clothing!!!
Beth Ditto (one of the Kisses, Bitch. team’s favorite singers) has said in interview after interview, they don’t make enough interesting, attractive, trendy OR socaily conscious clothing for women who are, well, fucking average sized. i read someone’s blog where they talked about it and had a picture of her, below a comment from someone saying “i hate beth ditto. she’s so fucking fat and ugly. why is this unhealthy person such a role model?”. funny, i look at pictures of coked out size <0 super models and think the same thing…
the fact is this is how most people think. a fat women says “hey, i’m fat, get over it, make clothing my size” and someone says “that ugly fat bitch is talking again! she needs to learn how to keep her mouth shut, LITERALLY” (i thought of that literally bit myself, actually, most people aren’t that bright..). when we say this sucks, people react by ignoring us. even you, reader, are you thinking i should just lose some weight, eat healthier, eat less, suck it up and get to the size where i can wear those jeans?
or maybe just be happy that WAL-MART makes my size and go there to get some momos right now?!?
i do eat a lot. a lot of kale, chard, collards, and other greens. that grow in my backyard. a lot bananas, too. and black beans (which have no fat). and frozen fake meat products and pears and carrots and mushrooms and onions and sometimes fish. i eat fucking healthy and so do many other women who aren’t below a size 12.
what i think is seriously sad and fucked up is how many women are constantly dieting. few of them ever lose the weight. but they diet and diet still. even the size 0s!
even more scarry is the amount of women who weren’t skinney, but not by any means over weight who developed eating disorders almost as soon as they were called fat by someone. as if being called fat is threat on your life and well being.
fat phobia is a real phobia(with a medical name that’s not fat phobia). charaterized by the fear of becoming overweight, women can’t eat if they see someone overweight. sometimes they throw up (not on purpose) when they do.
in our country and in the international fashion world fat=ugly. what does ugly equal? seems worse than death.
being thin has become the top measure of beauty. many people argue this isn’t true and point out men are still attracted to lots of curvy bad ass chick. but you almost everyman i know will tell me how beautiful/sexy/hot a dangerously thin girl without tits or an ass is, no matter how otherwise plain or ugly she is. and when a fat girl walks by “i was scared there for a second…” or “gross” or “that gorilla’s wearing clothes”. the first insult for any woman? fat bitch.
notice how Nicole Richie went from trashy to high fashion?
what’s worse is that this mindset is everywhere. so deeply inbedded in our psychy, how could we escape? people i know talk about being “body positive” but then make comments about how important losing weight is. not eating healthy, losing weight. i hear these things out of the mouths of the most otherwise open minded self aware people. and if i say something about it they say “well, that’s not what i meant.”
but it was said. and it’s the little things that kill. yes, it’s insulting how hard it is to find clothes my size, yes it’s insulting to hear my friends shit talk other fat girls they don’t know, but it’s even more insulting to hear my friends talk about how they need to lose weight when they are thinner than me. even more insulting to hear them say that other people (thinner than me) need to lose weight. even if they say “well, it’s different with you, you’re not fat”.
everyday, multiple times a day, i am reminded that my body is unacceptable. as is most anyother woman over a size 10. this isn’t my feelings getting hurt, this is oppression.
it’s true that every woman regardless of size feels like her body is not up to par. but if you are thin you’re in, even if you don’t think you are, even if you think you’re fat. because when you’re thin thinking you’re fat, what you’re thinking is that fat is ugly. this is beyond just “body positive”. this is a reworking of thinking. it’s not just about seeing fat as beautiful it’s about seeing a person, not an overweight person.
no clothing company that only makes to a certain size should get your money. yet another post where i have to say thrift stores are your best bet. even if you fit the standard.
